Quit being gay
Can People Stop Being Gay?
To polarize a crowd, bring up sexual reorientation. Religious fundamentalists who think homosexuality is a matter of choice consider it obvious that gay people can reverse their decisions. The opposite camp argues that gays are "born that way," and thus that sexual reorientation therapy is ineffective, as skillfully as cruel and demoralizing.
While the latter perspective hits closer to the mark, the science of sexuality supports a more measured stance. There are no verified cases of formerly gay people completely ridding themselves of same-sex attraction, but it does appear possible for some people who are predisposed to same-sex attraction to expand their sexual repertoire — develop attractions for opposite-sex partners as well, and even opt for the opposite sex exclusively.
"I assume highly motivated people can change their behavior, and they can clearly modify their label," said Heather Hoffmann, a professor of psychology who chairs the neuroscience program at Knox College in Galesburg, Ill.
Hoffmann's research focuses on the way that experiences and learning guide people's arousal patterns. She has demonstrated that sexual arousal is subj
Keys to Recovery from Same-Sex Attractions
by: LHM Board
[Note: while we are confident that the following list is accurate, we are aware that it can be overwhelming. It would be like handing a newborn infant a list of all the things he will contain to learn in the next five years: everything from learning to change over, learning to walk, becoming potty-trained, learning to chat, discovering hes not a part of his mommy, knowledge how to obey, getting ready to read, going to school. . . like we said, overwhelming! This is the big picture of how to walk out the goal of recovery. Allow us to encourage you to continually ask the Lord, What one thing do You want me to do next? and then do it.]
1. Accept that its not going to be easy. Modify that challenges our known comfort zone is difficult and painful. You are changing not just one isolated custom, but a collection of thoughts and behaviors that acquire made up your relational pattern for a lifetime. An important component of recovery is altering the wrong doctrine about your self, that this is me. This will take an amazing amount of try, but you don’t have to perform it in your own strength: the same power that raised Christ from the
My So-Called Ex-Gay Life
Early in my freshman year of tall school, I came home to detect my mom sitting on her bed, crying.
"Are you gay?" she asked. I blurted out that I was.
"I knew it, ever since you were a short-lived boy."
Her resignation didn't last long. My mom is a problem solver, and the next evening she handed me a stack of papers she had printed out from the Internet about reorientation, or "ex-gay," therapy. I threw them away. I said I didn't see how talking about myself in a therapist's office was going to make me terminate liking guys. My mother responded by asking whether I wanted a family, then posed a hypothetical: "If there were a pill you could hold that would create you straight, would you take it?"
I admitted that being would be easier if such a pill existed. I hadn't thought about how my passion with boys would play out over the course of my life. In fact, I had always imagined myself middle-aged, married to a woman, and having a son and daughter-didn't everyone want some version of that?
"The lgbtq+ lifestyle is very lonely," she said.
She told me about Dr. Joseph Nicolosi, a clinical psychologist in California who was then president of the National Association for
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