How to have gay sex
The “how to” of sex positions is imperative for any relationship. Mastering diverse gay sex positions not only heightens the experience but also provides a deeper connection with your partner both literally and figuratively. But before we start, if you’ve ever wondered, “What’s a top or bottom?” Don’t stress. These terms might be common within the LGBTQ+ people, but not everyday vernacular for everyone else, which is why we’ve position together an ever-growing list of Homosexual terminology.
At Bespoke Surgical, we think about sex in completely different ways and by bringing science into sex, a new era of understanding will enable improvement for everyone. Regardless of which gay anal sex positions you scout, it’s important to understand their differences:
- Affect the top and the bottom in different ways
- Bring out both submissive or aggressive characteristics of each person
- Require an understanding of both everyone’s positioning (height, penis curvature, and pelvic angle)
Little nuances and adjustments can make all the difference in terms of pleasure vs. pain, as does open and truthful communication. It’s key
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1. Lube
The arse does not produce its own lubrication.
This means that lube is really, really important for any anal play. First, to stop damage to the internal lining of your arse. Second, to make bottoming (and topping!) more pleasurable. And third, to help protect it from infections.
Remember to use water or silicon-based lubes, as oil-based lubes can damage condoms.
2. You
The second law is YOU. This is the one that covers off all the mental and emotional aspects such as making sure you feel safe, making sure there is consent, that you touch comfortable, that you know your own bottoming limits and desires.
Remember, sex is best for everyone if all the people emotionally attached are motivated by trying to maximise everyone’s pleasure safely. You can’t be a good significant other and you can’t experience pleasure for yourself if you’re stressed or uncomfortable (bottom or not!).
3. R
LGBTQIA+ Safer Sex Guide
Zero.
Disgracefully, that’s the number of U.S. states that need sex education curriculums be comprehensively inclusive to LGBTQIA+ folks.
Most sex learning programs, instead, assume that those receiving the facts are both heterosexual and cisgender. If there’s anything less cute than clogs, it’s that degree of homophobia and transphobia.
That’s why we worked with GLSEN, Advocates for Youth, and two queer sex educators to create a safer sex guide that understands the true complexity and diversity across gender identities, sexual orientation, attractions, and experiences.
Only 5 (ish) percent of LGBTQIA+ students saw any LGBTQIA+ representation in health class.
This guide is for the 95 percent of students whose many sexual health questions went unanswered in school.
It’s also for any LGBTQIA+ person who’s ever wondered:
- “What conversations should I have with a partner before sex?”
- “Is there a chance of pregnancy or STI transmission during [insert sex act here]?”
- “What can I do to generate sex even better?”
- “How do I become easy with my own body?”
Or anything else comparable to sexual health, sexual plea
Sexual health for gay and bi-curious men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to hand over on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the uncertainty of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV try every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is crucial, as some STIs do not generate any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can gain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated sustenance and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can manifest up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a occupied recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se
LGBTQIA+ Safer Sex Guide
Zero.
Disgracefully, that’s the number of U.S. states that need sex education curriculums be comprehensively inclusive to LGBTQIA+ folks.
Most sex learning programs, instead, assume that those receiving the facts are both heterosexual and cisgender. If there’s anything less cute than clogs, it’s that degree of homophobia and transphobia.
That’s why we worked with GLSEN, Advocates for Youth, and two queer sex educators to create a safer sex guide that understands the true complexity and diversity across gender identities, sexual orientation, attractions, and experiences.
Only 5 (ish) percent of LGBTQIA+ students saw any LGBTQIA+ representation in health class.
This guide is for the 95 percent of students whose many sexual health questions went unanswered in school.
It’s also for any LGBTQIA+ person who’s ever wondered:
- “What conversations should I have with a partner before sex?”
- “Is there a chance of pregnancy or STI transmission during [insert sex act here]?”
- “What can I do to generate sex even better?”
- “How do I become easy with my own body?”
Or anything else comparable to sexual health, sexual plea
Sexual health for gay and bi-curious men
Having unprotected penetrative sex is the most likely way to hand over on a sexually transmitted infection (STI).
Using a condom helps protect against HIV and lowers the uncertainty of getting many other STIs.
If you’re a man having sex with men (MSM), without condoms and with someone new, you should have an STI and HIV try every 3 months, otherwise, it should be at least once a year. This can be done at a sexual health clinic (SHC) or genitourinary medicine (GUM) clinic. This is crucial, as some STIs do not generate any symptoms.
Hepatitis A
Hepatitis A is a liver infection that's spread by a virus in poo.
Hepatitis A is uncommon in the UK but you can gain it through sex, including oral-anal sex ("rimming") and giving oral sex after anal sex. MSM with multiple partners are particularly at risk. You can also get it through contaminated sustenance and drink.
Symptoms of hepatitis A can manifest up to 8 weeks after sex and include tiredness and feeling sick (nausea).
Hepatitis A is not usually life-threatening and most people make a occupied recovery within a couple of months.
MSM can avoid getting hepatitis A by:
- washing hands after se